If you’ve never kissed a boy before, just thinking about your first kiss can be nerve-wracking. “How will I know what to do?” “Should I wait for him to go in for the kiss first?” “What if our noses bump?” These are just a few of the questions girls ask when wondering what their first kiss will be like. One reason why girls are apprehensive about their first kiss is because it is a totally new experience and, a lot of times, your feelings and reputation are on the line. What if you finally have your first kiss with a boy you have a major crush on, and it is a total disaster? How embarrassing would that be!? Will he think you’re weird and not talk to you again? Worse yet, will word get around school that you are a bad kisser? If that happens, you might never get another date!
These are all reasons why girls are nervous about their first kiss. In reality, it’s not as scary as you may think. After their first kiss, a lot of girls wonder what they were so nervous about! Every girl and every situation are different, but here are some pointers that may help you be a little more chill about the first time you kiss a boy. First of all, decide before hand if you are into the boy you are going to kiss. If you don’t really like the boy, it won’t matter how good a kisser you are. Most likely you will walk away from the first kiss thinking, “Ewww, gross!”. Don’t forget that you will remember your first kiss for the rest of your life. Make it a good experience by kissing a boy you really like. Next, make sure the situation is right for your first kiss. First kisses can be a little awkward since you are not really sure what you are doing, so make sure you are in an environment where you feel comfortable and safe. I recommend a place that is out the eyesight of other people. For example, I had an awesome first kiss when I was playing ping-pong in our garage with a really cute boy. My mom and dad were inside the house. The boy and I both reached for the ping-pong ball. We laughed. Our faces were close together, and it just happened. What I thought would be a really awkward experience was really natural and exciting. That brings us to another thing. Don’t force your first kiss. If you do, there’s a good chance that it will be awkward. Instead, create situations that are conducive to a good first-kiss environment.
Do some activity with the boy you have a crush on. Go for a picnic, go to the movies, or just hang out at the house like I did and play ping-pong. If you worry more about the set-up for a kiss than the kiss itself, it is more likely to be a good experience. Concerning the actual act of kissing, don’t sweat it. Your first kiss will be a lot more enjoyable and a lot more awkward if you relax. Trust me. If you have the right timing and the right boy, it will probably flow smoothly. Remember, the boy is probably more nervous than you are!